For the first time since my sons started at their special school, this term we have had no fees to pay as they are both now being funded by the local LEA. I've written in post passim about finding our way through the special needs "jungle" of statementing and I hope if you are in that position now you will find some of the things on this site useful.
Indeed, I am only too aware of how many people are going through the process and are having a much tougher time of it than we did. We applied at a time when our LEA was reassessing the way it looks at Statutory Assessment, Statementing and Funding. For children with high-functioning AS, like our boys, it recognised that it had little suitable provision and that these children, who may have so much potential, so often fall through the cracks. They may end up in the benefits or mental health care system when they become adults because they have not received the social education they needed and cannot put to use any academic education they gained into a worthwhile career. Or any career.
If they are lucky, they may have had supportive parents and may have been able to progress to university and into a job in a narrow-focused industry (sciences, accounting, research) where their ability to do the job is more highly prized than the ability to make lively and reciprocal conversation. These are likely to be the young people from the very highest and most able end of the spectrum, who are from middle class backgrounds with university educated parents themselves.
But too many AS young people will be in low-paid jobs far below their intellect because they cannot cope with the social interaction needed to progress up the career ladder and they have not had access to or found a route through to the support they need to thrive. Others may find their ASD so disabling that they will have to live in sheltered accommodation, relying on Disability Living Allowance and other benefits.
Now, it is not true to say that if you don't reach the top of a well-paid profession you won't be happy. For many people with AS, happiness comes just from having a friend to talk to or being able successfully to cope with everyday living. Many people with AS get married and have families of their own and are perfectly happy within their own circle, thank you very much.
But just think how different it could be if everyone who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome got the help they needed at an early enough age for it to make a significant difference to the outcome of their life. Yes, some may still need to live in sheltered housing and will work in in low-stress jobs because their condition dictates it. But for others it could mean the difference between a life of just coping and a life of thriving. Every single person with AS should have access to the right kind of education that my boys are lucky enough to be getting.
Parents who are worried that there my be something socially 'different' about their child should not just bury their heads in the sand and hope they will 'grow out of it'. They should not just shrug and say their child is 'coping' at school when you really know they are just keeping their heads above water. Your kids have one shot at education and one shot at a successful and happy life and it is the duty of their parents to ensure they have the best opportunity of achieving that. Even if the option of a specialist school is not open, you can speak to your school's SENCo, make your concerns known, ensure they are getting appropriate support at school and do your own research as well. Parents' instincts are not often wrong.
I am speaking here from experience. We were once in the position of knowing something was different about both of our boys but not what to do about it. I spoke to their teachers, I researched their symptoms, I got them referred to a paediatrician. We got a diagnosis. We were told we'd never get a statement for either boy as they were too able so not to bother trying. We were told they had to be three years behind to get a Statutory Assessment. We were told all sorts of inaccurate things by teachers who didn't know any more about Statementing than we did.
We didn't listen and now we have two statements for both our sons who are both in the top few percent for ability. More than that, our LEA is paying for them to go to the school of our choice where they can be supported. It can be done. Your battle may be harder than mine; you may have to go to Tribunal. You may live in one of those LEAs like Hampshire that think brinkmanship is the order of the day. These councils will oppose you to the very last second in the hope that you will be scared off or you will end up broke, broken or both. They don't care as long as they don't have to shell out for your child. Shame on them, but do not be deterred. Even when you are tired and stressed and thinking of giving up, remember who you are doing this for and that they deserve the best you can give them.
If you need advice you can always leave a comment here and I will try to help or point you to someone who can. And things are changing. There are politicians out there who know about special needs, and parliamentary candidates such as Maria Hutchings who are fighting every day to improve the situation for young people with ASD. We just need to get the ones who are actually in the government to make sure that reviews that are currently being undertaken are acted upon so that the next generation of young people on the spectrum don't face the same uphill struggle as ours do.
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