I have just been contacted through this site by Sharon, a mother from Kent, whose son has been excluded from school following incidents of self-harming.
She writes, "My ADHD, ASD, Dyslexic, self-harming son, has just been excluded from school, because they don't think Luke trying to strangle himself in class or him regularly saying he wants to kill himself, is a good role model for the other pupils. Their answer, discriminate (against) Luke for his disability. He needs support, not rejection and that’s all this exclusion is to him, rejection!"
This is apparently the second time Luke's school has excluded him. His mother, Sharon, believes it is not Luke's fault but it is because the staff in his mainstream school are not trained to deal with ADHD or Autistic Spectrum children.
Sharon is at her wits end. She says, among other self-harming incidents, her son has also tried to hang himself in the school's P.E. cupboard. I have recommended that she contact SOS!SEN. Luke has been refused a Statutory Assessment Kent LEA and his parents have appealed to the SENDIST tribunal, which will be heard later this year.
Sharon says, "It looks like Luke will not have a secondary school to go to this year. The tribunal is only for a Statutory Assessment, then we need to go through the whole process yet again for a statement! We have already been to CAMHS for over a year now. No counselling, he was put on a waiting list for a ASD assessment, but there was a 13 month waiting list for that. The last time we went to CAMHS a new Dr. saw Luke and we now have a diagnosis of ADHD & ASD tendencies. Were awaiting a dyslexia test, and counselling for the self harming, which is quite evident to everyone, but they chose to ignore it, or put it down to bad parenting!"
Sharon says that Luke's primary school failed to get him the help he needed and his problems are now worse as a result. I don't know all the details of Luke's case but it certainly seems to be an impossible situation to be in. However, it isn't sadly, unique. Why is it that children in severe need of help with psychological problems are so often failed by those professionals around them?
I send my best wishes to Sharon and hope she manages to get the education and counselling for Luke that he deserves. If anyone reading this can offer free legal or medical advice to sharon, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or make a comment below. Thank you.