Until recently, Asperger's Youngest had no interests that didn't involve a computer or a games console.
He used to love Lego, but that faded into the background the older he became. He used to spend hours reading and memorising Horrible Science magazines, but that too, petered out. He spends far too much time playing Xbox but at least half the time he's playing Xbox Live, talking to his school friends as they play together, remotely.
Over the summer however, he became interested in wargaming. Not computerised, but Games Workshop wargaming, painting figures and playing board games with them. This was a revelation and we've been quick to support him. This entails spending vast amounts of money on Orks (for my husband to play with him) and Space Marines (for him) as well as Codex books, paints and carry boxes.
Most Sundays I take him to Games Workshop where he paints alongside a few other boys, instructed by the fantastic guys who run the store. These guys are amazing - always on hand to help in a low key, let-them-get-on-with-it sort of way. They're not teachers but my son is learning valuable skills both social and practical.
Youngest has dyspraxia and has always found art, painting and writing incredibly difficult. But the care and detail he puts into painting his Space Marines is a joy to see. I'm certain it's improving his fine motor skills which should improve his school artwork. He's also learning from Nick, the GW guy, more about rules and how to play the games. Strangely, there's always a little something Youngest decides he needs to buy at the end of the session as well.
It's not wholly surprising that he's picked a hobby that involves collecting and being immersed in a scenario - but if it's improving his communication skills with real people, I'm all for it.
So even though on most Sundays, I can be found wasting two hours wandering around the adjoining shopping centre or sitting in Starbucks on my iPad as I wait for his session to finish, it's worth it - just to see him interacting with something that doesn't need plugging in.
Best of all, he's enjoying himself and it's a hobby my husband can enjoy with him as my husband sculpts his own figures - not fantasy but World War II. This game in the pictures lasted two days and Youngest thrashed his Dad, much to his delight.
What's your special needs child's favourite pastime?
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